Have you ladies ever wondered the way your husbands or boyfriends behave out there when you are not around them? For example when they are at their office, has it ever occurred to you that they might be acting too flirty, too corny or too poyo to other women in their surroundings? Could our men be consistently breaking the ice to start a conversation with other women or avoiding them totally what so ever?
Could they be too stuck up and hated by their colleagues? Could they be too affable to a point where they cross the line of working buddies? To be honest, I wonder too…
Wait a second. Before you think that this is a about me green eyed with jealousy, well its not. My eyes can be green at times, yes, but it’s the lenses, and it has got nothing to do with jealousy ok!
There is a man I know many years ago that liked to give unsolicited remark about the appearance of my girlfriends and I. In the several hours that all of us are stuck together in the same environment, each and every one of us would get three or four comments on our clothes, our make-up and worse, our bodies. The comments were not all positive some are rather private and unnecessary. Like our toes, have you ever gotten a remark on your toes being dry and you need to moisturize them with body lotion? From a male colleague? To me that’s very annoying. What the hell was he doing observing our toes? Sick!
He would compliment us many times on the days that we wear nice fitted kebaya but would degradingly say we looked dowdy in a baju kurung. He would act excitedly on the days that we looked nicer than usual and would loudly voice the criticism of how we have gone kembang or lebar or unattractive. He would then state his opinion on what is nice and what is pretty on us. Like we ever give a damn. On the days that our blouses were a little tighter; he would circle us like vultures and gave endless compliment on how he “couldn’t” look at us.
Please don’t say we asked for this. Please don’t say I got this because of the way I dress myself. He treated all women the same way, with or without hijab, short skirt or jubah, long sleeve or short. Married women, single or pregnant mommies; all the same!
All of us started to avoid bumping into him.
We understand that men like to look at women but for goodness sake don’t declare to the whole world. At least don’t declare to the ladies themselves! Some gedik ones may like the attention but for most of us, too much of a good thing can make us vomit blood.
We hated to walk pass him as we knew he would be watching and scrutinizing. He made us feel unnecessarily self-conscious and annoyed. He certainly made ME feel like not dressing up. Because if I do, he made it seem like I was dressing up for him and listening to his advice of doing my hair like that, my make-up like this. Who the hell did he think he was? All I know he was a bug I really wanted to step on. Or spit at.
Until the day we all got to meet his wife.
I looked at her and I thought she was HIS MAID. All of us vomited blood. Ok no… My friends didn’t vomit blood, they were not as expressive as I am. I DID. I vomit a full bucket of fresh bile tainted blood; and if the girls didn’t immediately start gossiping I would have been filling the second.
I am not going to describe how she looked like, that poor woman, she didn’t do us no wrong but WHAT THE HELL WAS HER HUSBAND THINKING? Commenting on other women’s look as though he has THE PERFECT WOMAN in mind as a benchmark and in reality his own wife is far from average attractiveness? I mean wayyyy far okay?! Was he delusional? Could he had given up hope on becoming his own wife’s fashion consultant that he decided to appoint himself a free-of-charge consultant of every other women that cross his path?
From then on, he had become the butt of joke to all of us. Annoyingly he continued commenting both the good and the bad of each and everyone of us but he was also being laughed at behind his back ever at the same time.
That is why I wonder how Azman acted around his female friends. He could by all means compliment a lady’s appearance and make her day, I don’t mind at all just please please please do not criticized a lady’s look even though she could pass as a good buddy and would take up a bad joke from a guy friend. It would all reflects back on me. Trust me nobody wants to be in the shoes of that man’s wife.
I can imagine other girls saying “ Eleh, bini dia Diyana yang kurus kering, rambut macam penyapu tu pun ada hati nak mengata orang!” . Though I AM emaciated and I DO HAVE a head full of penyapu; upon hearing that I would just die!
Haha!!
Hear.. hear.. !!
omg. sape yang jahat mulut sgt tuuuu. goshh pathetic la that man. lelaki kalau kutuk org, mmg lg teruk dr 10 perempuan yg mengumpat!!
muahahhaah jahatnya u di..hahahaha..anyway i rasa mamat tu secretly living ‘dua alam’ kot..u know what i mean? yalah, why would he got all interested in clothes, dry skin etc..geli la
hanis & miza, hahaha! yeah you are right!
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eintanz, eh apa lak I jahat… kitorang adalah victim of unwanted scrutiny babe…haha. same goes for a woman la… kalau husband cam muka pecah rumah jgn la suka komen2 or kutuk lelaki lain kan???
hmm i dont agree with ur title coz i think tiara sucks!! n i could think of many other wifeys who are way hotter:P heheh but i guess d guy is trying to make up for his wife’s deficiencies in looks by commenting on d looks of other women..maybe hes secretly gay..coz as far as i know only gay guys like to scrutinise their female friends that way 🙂
My hubby takde lah kutuk…in fact he keeps his opinions pon to himself je, kalo bab kutuk I nie haaa yg pandai hehehehehe
Uuu…Uuu…tapi diyana, saya imagine macam ni “ Eleh.., bini dia Diyana yang kurus boleh buat sup tulang tu, rambut macam penyapu mop tu pun ada hati nak mengata orang..cait!” UUuu…Uuu.. =P kepeh kepeh kepeh **kenape aku bayangkan macam tu..??!
mamat tu mmg mcm tu…dia nak dapat super gorgeous hot babe (s.g.h.b) mmg tak dapat sbb sghb mesti sanggup bunuh diri kalau jadi bini dia hahahahahahaha …iskkk jahatnye mulut aku ni….
ehhh..bani, mamat tu mesti muka pecah tanah?! ada betul ka? =P kepeh kepeh
muka dia pecah kaca pecah gelas je..tapi versi sudah baca jangan balas hahahahahahahahaha
hak hak hak…aku dapat bayangkan macam mana muka mamat itu!!..boleh mendatangkan ketakutan kepada anak ayam mahupun anak itik..hak hak hak =P kepeh kepeh
anak jin pun kalau tau perangai dia tobat taknak jadi jin lagi hahahahahahahahaha
ish ish sape ni..teruknya..ko ‘sound’ je dia skali..
hmmmm..ini boleh mendatangkan marah!!!!!hishhh…..sape la dia tu….aku sure sakit hati je kalau satu opis ngan dia…..nasib baik aku dpt opis mate yg ok…lunch sama2….keje sama2…..hmmmm…mslhnye aku sorg melayu n aku sorg pompuan…..hmmmm..xder member nak gosip….dtg opis, keje…keje….keje…..
Do u mean to say that laki Tiara tu boleh mengata orang… hmmm….
owh, panjangnya! VOMIT BLOOD gak la nak baca, but when bace je the entire story, seriyess MUNTAH KEDARAH with this kinda behavior. Btw, although i didn’t know this diyana, this kurus-kering-girl-with-hair-mcm-penyapu-(or mop) has a lovely MIKI ( who cares about the rest? ) you go girl!! rarrr!! (plz refer to muka ganas Miki the bunglar)
that is what i call ‘mouth diarrhea’…
yunus izam, dammit man… your name rings a bell but i can’t remember which
churchbas mini… who.are.you.i.can’t.remember?????
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fan, are u a peminat or a kipas? just kidding!!! hey if u ever feel like vomiting blood upon reading my entries, please stop reading at once ya?! i don’t wanna be causing a new epidemic or something… hehe btw, my hair is a penyapu/mop hybrid. hehe
oh dear Lord, we used to have someone like this in our office. x cover2 tgk org dari atas ke bawah, n then mesti nak bg unsolicited advice dia tuh. ‘baju ni buat ko nmpk gemuk la, warna ni x kena dgn skin tone la, etc, etc’… yuck!
paling x tahan, masa dkt dlm opis sendiri i pakai pink fluffy bunny nyer selipar, itu pon dia x spare langsung komen dia… kena gak condemn… lps dia kawen terus x mengomel lg… wonder why? ;P
kalau rambut sesetengah org, guna jari pun bole…tapi rambut diyana guna gergaji pun bole hahahahaha dan aku takde rambut hahahahaha
ooo..what a horrible man eh? anyway, i am sure your hub’s female friends are jealous of you cos you are one hot mama 😀
hehehe aku terkenang masa aku keje kat husm, yup ade sorg prangai mcm ni, suke ngomen mcm aku ni bini dia, jgn pakai ni, seksi, pakai mcm ni cantik,,,eee yeck..last2 aku pakai labcoat spanjang hari…puas ati..
p/s: aku benci laki mata x-ray..ehem
i dont kipas2 maa, i use aircond je..just love to read ur blog .. diyanazman.com’s fan, not diyana’s fan arr.. hehe.. but i’m a huge fan of MIKI. keep on writing, you do put a smile on my face when having a bad day (or even a bad hair day, or bad penyapu hair day? erm..)
Adehh aku pun mati² ingat dia ‘play for the other team’ until I read the paragraph of him and his wife.
But is it just me or you’re getting hotter in those pictures taken kat wedding kat Melaka tu?
(Azman jangan marah aku!)
uh oh! uh oh! i know who! i know who! nightmare! nightmare!
HoneyBunch… hahahaha!!! don’t you go telling or you will get me into trouble! hehehehe… tp mmg annoying giler kan???
no idea. i’ve never met u before.
yunus izam, yeah… it’s just that your name sounds very familiar… thanks for visiting my humble blog! 🙂
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Asroll, yang hot tu bukan aku tu Elina si pengantin!
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Oyis, gosh they are everywhere aren’t they???
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MOmmy to Chumsy, horrible yes!!!! but azman’s frens cant be jealous la, im just a mop/penyapu head.. hehe
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Fan, thanks!! even though you prefer Miki more, your comment is still very inspiring to me.. hehe..
honeybunch..i tau jugak la..hahahhaaaa…
org kurus pun boleh tension, inikan yg gemok macam aku… lagi panas hati dok kena kutuk macam2… samapi ke hal makan semua pun nak komen walaupun nothing to do with it. makan hati beb makan hati
by the way aku tau hang cakap pasai sapa.
kengkadang aku pun meluat gak kalau nak joke lebey2 ni. kurus ka gemok ka tight ka lose ka sukati8 la.
i wonder if he still does it. ingat dah slow on that..???
hi Diyana,
that is why klu I pegi opis my wife. mcam2 dia akan cek. Kena kemas, kena long sleeve bla bla etc. u all tahu lah opis gomen, lagi byk gossip haha
Ada jugak laki yg macam ni ekk, kepoh. Klu i buat derk jee.
Ttg wife dia tu, I rasa dia ingin melepaskan rasa ketidak puasan hatinya pada u all. sbb kat umah tak dpt haha..
tak pun nak tegur bini takut haahaha
wahahahhahah~!!! cam kenal je siapa lelaki yang dimaksudkan itu!! dulu saye rasa cam nak tunjuk tangan kat dia sambil berkata “whateveeerrr” tp memandangkan saye ni intern… saye diam aje la.. tambahan pula saye ni dulu pemalu sket…hihihikk
KD, aku tatau la..mungkin skrg makin keruk bak sindrom kks…
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Lankapo. ayoyo… susahnya kena pakai long sleeve semua ke??? ke tangan u ada panau? hahahaha… sorry lawak je… tapi betul la cakap u tu.. bini dia takut nak tegur..
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Lin, OMG!!! Lin pon penah kena ke??? nyampah ka??? muntah darah rasa….
LOL
this guy has “foot fetish” written all over him
and for excessively commenting on ppl’s wardrobe malfunction…i think he’s “in the closet”…u get what i mean rite diyana?
btw…who moisturise cracked heel anyway? i rather put it on somewhere else *lu fikir la sendiri*, ya ampun!